Divorce is hard on the whole family, but it is especially difficult for the children caught in the middle. While you may be in the process of rebuilding your life, do not forget that your kids may need assistance in that area as well. Here are a few tips to help your kids heal after a divorce.
It is often hard for parents to communicate with each other after a divorce. When you have kids, this communication is necessary, so do everything you can to prevent arguments in front of your children. This is especially important when picking up or dropping off your child at the other parent’s house. The last thing you want is to have your child associate this time with one of stress or worry, which is exactly what you will do if you fight and bicker in front of him.
You may also have concerns about how your former spouse is treating your child since the divorce. For example, if your spouse frequently cancels plans, your child is bound to feel hurt and confused. It is up to you to talk with your child and allow her to express her frustrations about the matter. Also, do not make excuses for the other parent, especially when missed visits are an ongoing issue.
You should also broach with the subject with your ex, but try to do so in a civil manner. If he or she is unresponsive and unwilling to work with you, you might need to take the issue back to court. Child visitation schedules are court-ordered, and if they are not followed it may be necessary to modify them for the benefit of the child.